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Wednesday, November 9, 2011

Sisterly Love

Sometime over the course of the weekend, this happened:

"can't breathe", "shhhhh, it's okay", "mmmmph"
It really is odd that Lily is so accepting of closeness with her big sister and so . . . less than enthused about it with others.  I cropped the picture, saved it to my iPhone, set it as screen saver and vowed to share it via blog.  

This morning I was reminded of it.  I got to daycare early. . . too early.  The people that usually watch both kiddos before the bus arrives to take them to school hadn't arrived so I had to put them both in with the general populace until help arrived.  (Essentially the school age kids go downstairs and all the rest, babies, toddlers, and. . . well, babies and toddlers I guess are it, stay upstairs)  

Lily is no stranger to the upstairs area, having come from there just before the school year started, and there weren't really any transitional issues.  She walked over to where they keep the books and grabbed one.  I steered her over to a seat (because she's not allowed to stand or walk around looking at books) and kissed her goodbye.  

As I was leaving, she ripped the book and I sort of headed back to the room to tell her "no", rescue the book and talk to her sister.

"Em, please watch your sister until you guys go downstairs, okay?"

"Sure, Daddy."

I hugged her and kissed her and told her I loved her and to have a nice day and left the room.  Before I did though, I looked back.  Emma didn't see me, she was holding a new book for Lily to read.  Lily didn't want the book, and grabbed one of her own.  As I watched, Emma grabbed a chair for Lily and steered her into it, telling her, "You have to sit down if you want to read books," just as she's heard us tell Lily for almost two years now.  Lily sat down, and Emma put away the other books.

I left the daycare.  I was really proud of Emma.  I love seeing the way she interacts so naturally with her little sister, so protective and attentive; she really takes pride in being able to connect with Lily.  She's a great helper when babysitters come over and watch the kids.  Or, for that matter, when the daycare does.

25 comments:

  1. The picture says it all. The girls are lucky - both of them.

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  2. That picture is just so sweet. It's wonderful they have such a good relationship. Thanks again, by the way, for commenting on my blog the other day. :)

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  3. @ Karen - you're probably right, but i refuse to participate in Wordless Wednesday. I'm too verbose.

    @ Buki's Mom - thanks! and my pleasure!

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  4. This is so sweet! What a great post. Thank you for sharing your precious girls. :)

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  5. My next post is going to have to be about football or hockey or something or Brian will totally delete me.

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  6. The story and the photo are both very beautiful!

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  7. What a beautiful picture! They are so lucky to have each other :)

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  8. I love that photo. (And the caption.) I love how siblings can be together. My oldest can get my other two to do things they would never do for me. They also ask him for permission to do things. This creates a big problem for me as my lazy side ("It sure is easier if I let him parent") battles my responsible side ("He's going to let them eat candy and stay up late.")

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  9. thank you thank you. . .

    And just tonight, at P/T conferences. . . ANOTHER little sisterly moment. I might have to put this one off. . . too much lovey happiness all at once. I need to snark it up a bit or something.

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  10. @stimey. . . you know you love letting him be the "good guy". I know I would. . . makes them closer, gives the kiddos more support out in the big scarey world.

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  11. I think the secret is out without me saying a word - you have a soft side and all your followers know it! :) It happens to all good fathers who have only daughters!

    This is pure loveliness.

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  12. awww... what an amazing picture and an amazing big sister... I love my big sis and I can't imagine life without her. Lily is lucky to have such a wonderful loving family!

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  13. Really, really beautiful. You actually made me cry a little!

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  14. @Along - BAH! *waves dismissively*

    @himey - Every day they do something together that seems amazing to me and I'm quick to point out how amazing it is to Emma hoping it will reinforce her to keep it up.

    @M2LM - YAY! I mean. . . there there. . .

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  15. They are adorable. Now I want the pic where they are bludgeoning each other...

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  16. They. . . don't do that. Actually, Lily bludgeons Emma occasionally but it's just because she's "comforting her" or because she likes Emma's ears, so sometimes she pulls her hair so that she can see them.

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  17. So glad I found your blog. It's great to hear from other ASD parents who can laugh at this shit. :)

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  18. Awwwww!!!! All that from a guy with a Viking helmet! Who knew that Vikings were so sentimental?

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  19. Lily is so lucky to have a sister like Emma.

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  20. @NJAMB - Vikings, more than just pointy hats.

    @AD - She is, for sure. And Emma's lucky to have a sister like Lily too. They're symbiotes. (shut up, it's totally a word)

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  21. I am so glad that the conferences went well and it is OK to be chatty. I am so proud of Emma - she has a special place in my heart.

    Ms. Aweeze

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  22. It IS okay. We love how bubbly she is. . . and so do the teachers, provided she can be quiet long enough to allow the rest of the kiddos to learn.

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  23. That is the best picture ever. EVER.

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  24. Thank you. I love it. It's my iphone and ipad screen saver.

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