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Friday, March 9, 2012

Special Needs Ryan Gosling




For about five weeks now, Sunday over at Adventures in Extreme Parenting has posted pictures of Ryan Gosling uttering supportive special needs lingo in a "Special Needs Ryan Gosling" meme that has swept the special needs blogosphere.  And for about five weeks now I've told her I find this meme sexist and demeaning to men.


Not really.  I mean. . . I've really been telling her that, but I don't really find it sexist or demeaning.  It is a hard truth for a daddy parent blogger that your parent blogger peers are 95% women.  As such I'm not invited to participate in the "Circle of Moms", or "Blogher", "Sits Girls" or "Bloggy Moms" circles that moms utilize to spread awareness about their blogs.  But I'm not bitter.  Like the groundbreaking male bloggers who went before me, I'll just have to work twice as hard to get half as much exposure as my female peers.  It's hard being a man blogging in a woman's blogging world.


But enough about my daily struggles against sexism.  The meme is pretty friggin' amusing (btw, I said "friggin" last night and the audible scandalized gasp that my almost 10 year old daughter Emma dramatically uttered was classic) and I invite you to link through the various participants you'll see on Sunday's page to see what THEY think Ryan Gosling might be saying if he were your significant other. . . or you!


So today. . . my participation:




62 comments:

  1. Hahahaha! Great one Jim! Just so you know you are not the only guy linking up with me. Tom of Adventures in Asperger's also plays along!

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    1. i KNOW! Only he's playing the "Hey guy" angle. . .

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  2. I just had a feeling you wouldn't be able to resist! I just didn't understand how you would approach it but - Bwahaha! I, for one, female blogger think you are fun to read just because you come from "the other side". :)

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    1. I've been telling her for weeks that Ryan Gosling would be protesting the sexist blogosphere this week.

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  3. LMAO - OMG! You just made me spit coffee on my damn keyboard.
    Gluten free recipes on Pinterest...

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  4. This. Is. Perfection. Love it!

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  5. Very nice! You're such a sensitive manly man amongst women.

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  6. You and Ryan speak so eloquently for the special needs community! :) And how about giving the women a run for their money and starting BlogHim??? OH - that's so close to BlogJim!!!

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    1. it doesn't have the same Blogger/Blogher homonymy feel to it.

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    1. so. . . you have a recipe then?

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  8. I bought that you were a man blogging about his family until you went gluten free. I'm on to you now.

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    1. about me? Yeah! I mean. . . i THINK I am.

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  10. Wait. What? I thought you were a woman. Well, this is awkward now. I'm starting to feel a tish uncomfortable here...

    I can see Karla and I think exactly alike.

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    1. YOU'RE uncomfortable. . . how about ME??

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  11. HA!!! That's genius!! Pininterest... I love it!!

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  12. This is hysterical. Well-played!

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  13. Does ryan really think you're a woman? Well, if his eyes are that bad, then maybe he really DOES think I'm hot!!!!

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    1. Nono. . . in this case Ryan is ME.

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  14. Jim, you are my favorite daddy blogger in all the blogosphere.

    Also, I like you better than Ryan Gosling. Would Ryan Gosling comment on my blog so hysterically that I did spit-takes? No. Would Ryan Gosling make up a nickname for me that doesn't make me stabby? No. Would Ryan Gosling spend an hour pretending Ken was an assassin with me? NO NO NO. You are so much better than Ryan Gosling. He's useless compared to you. Also, he came here to film a movie last summer and he wasn't even awesome. No one ever saw him out and about, or anything. He was all quiet like a mouse. BORING. You'd be out doing wacky crap, were you Ryan Gosling filming in Schenectady.

    Also, ZOMG Emma's response to "frigging." You're just so scandalous. I'm totally shocked at the moment, too.

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    1. Thank you, Amy!

      I know. . . Emma was in shock at that open display of profanity

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  15. Niiiiice. If it makes you feel better, Google thinks I'm a dude. As do a significant number of people on Twitter. I'm not sure why.

    I think you could be a SITS girl if you really wanted it enough.

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    1. It's the mouse, I'm pretty sure that's a picture of a boy mouse.

      You think so? You realllllllly think so??

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  16. Holy swearwords. I totally thought Stimey was a dude and you were a chick. Now I have to rearrange who I have more respect for.

    Because I have very little respect for my own gender. I'm a chick. I sound like a dude on the phone, though. Girls suck. I followed your blog as soon as I realized that you weren't a threat to me and that if I called you a "bitch" it would be hilarious and not offensive. Okay, it's still offensive and not at all hilarious. But one day it will be. When you get to know me better. Which you will. Because I'm awesome at forcing myself on people. But not in a rape sort of way. That's what it sounds like. It's not like that at all.

    The vicodin has kicked in. I'm afraid I'll never find this comment again in the morning to delete it. Oh well.

    Jim. You should be the new meme. Ryan is pale and skinny. Like an effing girl.

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    1. I would say "Hey baby" if it was my meme, not "Hey girl". Hey baby is the hey girl of my generation.

      it hurts my feelings that I'm perceived as non-threatening. So I will totally stab a bitch yo. Fine, it doesn't hurt my feelings.

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    2. ahahahaahahahahahahahahahahahaaaa.

      I'd tell you "I'm going to cut you" but I already almost got kicked out of a forum for that this week already. And I'm enjoying this forum.

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  17. Great post! Ya know, I know more guys that blog that some would ever think! :)

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    1. lots of guy bloggers. . . not so many "parent" guy bloggers. I mean, they're parents who don't blog about parenting. if that makes sense.

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  18. You have me so confused. Hockey, Pininterest & gluten-free? At least you're not boring. Ryan Gosling is dull, dull, dull. Haven't figured out the infatuation with him. Poster boy, nothing else.

    Take a picture of yourself in a Pens jersey and knock out a few teeth and the confusion will end.

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    1. Deb. I could lick your face from top to bottom for that comment, but it's not my place because this isn't my blog. Yet.

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  19. Don't feel so left out. Even us mommy bloggers sometimes struggle with all that!

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    1. I will attempt to console myself with that moving forward. ;)

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  20. And this is EXACTLY why I follow your blog. That was amazing. :) Way to put a male spin on all this.

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    1. It's the only spin I know how to put! Thanks!

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  21. I didn't participate in the Ryan Gosling meme because I thought the whole point of it is that most dads of special needs kids don't do what I do. While I found the posters friggin' hilarious, I couldn't come up with one that didn't insult special-needs moms or sound holier-than-thou coming from me. You, sir, captured both ironies perfectly, and made all the moms and at least one dad laugh about them. You're the sharpest thing since power tools!

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    1. Thanks, Papa Bear. Dad Power! *punches it in*

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  22. As the only mommy blogger in the entire bloggysphere who does not get all happy in the pants at the mere sight of Ryan Gosling, allow me to say that this is the best Ryan Gosling meme-thingy I've seen so far.

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    1. There's another one or two of you floating around out there. I saw a few Gosling hater comments on the various blogs. . .

      Thank you!

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  23. You do crack me up. I think Ryan spotted those pesky boobies you were sporting on twitter a while back. Seriously though I follow something called Dad2Summit and it sounds like BlogHer for BlogHis...

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    1. YAY!

      He probably did. What a pig!

      I saw the Dad 2.0 thing. Is that what you're talking about?

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  24. I feel like I've fallen through the friggin' blogger looking glass and come out on the most warped side ever. Some of you seem somewhat familiar but clearly I had no idea who you people REALLY ARE! (Talk about feeling excluded! You guys have all the fun.) And you Jim...well, I'm going to have to make you my friend. Whether you like it or not.

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    1. Oh I like it! I'm all about inclusion.

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    2. Oh I like it! I'm all about inclusion.

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  25. Hi Jim,
    just wanted to tell you, that I immediatly added you to "favourites" on my laptop. You rock big time - even if Google has it all wrong on the gender ;-p
    BR Tina

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  26. DUDE! Substitute a photo of you and just LOOK at the awesome mom-ass that will be all over you, grabbing you in a leg hug. "Awesome mom-ass" not sexist in the least because I can say that about myself.

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