Showing posts with label camping. Show all posts
Showing posts with label camping. Show all posts

Thursday, August 15, 2013

This One Time At ...Camp... Camp

My wife, after much thought and consideration (sangria) decided we were going camping for the first time with the entire family.  She informed the family on Tuesday, three days before we left, because it's not like our family requires time to transition or plan.



She immediately started packing and making ready all the supplies she felt we had (after consulting friends) and I scheduled a trip to REI to purchase the essentials we did not:  Gunpowder, ham hocks, and guitar strings. 

Let me back up...

My wife hosted a "girl's night" at our house one night when she knew I would be gone and wouldn't eff it up.  So they met and she hosted, and by the time I got there they were all half lit up and had convinced Leslie that camping with the entire family would be not only fun, but good for her.  And honestly, given the group they probably had the best shot at convincing her because all of them work with Lily on a day-to-day basis during the school year.  They were going...built in support...why NOT go?

And of all the thousand reasons I would ordinarily have been able to dream up, I came up with..."but the laundry" and ..."but grocery shopping..." and I was ignored and we were going camping and that was fine.  And the reason it was fine is the same reason that the group we were going with had the best shot at convincing Leslie.  It wasn't just going to be us.  We'd have built-in support.

Emma was, of course, beside herself with joy.  She has wanted to go REAL camping for as long as we've been going backyard camping, so for her, this was the realization of all her desires.  Fishing/camping out/s'mores...

Friday I got home five or ten minutes early.  Leslie had essentially packed everything, and as is typical for our pre-trip organization and packing, she was stressed to the gills and finding it extremely difficult (I assume) to reply to any questions in any sort of..."civil" tone.

A blogging friend sent me a Facebook message telling me to have fun and not to drive my wife insane. I replied, "I promise not to drive her crazy if she lives through the fucking drive...her stress manifests itself in the form of excessive shrewery."  

Leslie gets stressed before trips or parties and then bites everyone who comes within range.  Fine...bites me when I come in range.  She gets over it very quickly and is apologetic and sweet, but I find that her stress level ratchets up higher the closer we get to departure.  And then once we depart, like a rubber band snapping, so too does her stress.  Meanwhile though, we were in the final minutes...

The blogger then asked, "how does your stress manifest itself?"  

"I start saying fuck a lot."

But really what happens is I get super defensive and immediately bite back and make whoever bit at me as absolutely miserable as possible, which is the exact best combination for building to a fight.  

When we arrived we put up two tents because we didn't have a big one, and Leslie and Lily took one while Emma and I took the other.  And it's probably for the best because we verbally bit and scratched halfheartedly at each other until...maybe Saturday.  Because....

Once we were all together, and at the campsite with tents set up and children fed, the rain began to fall.  And we huddled together, our three groups, under a canopy, drinking beer and getting soaking wet from about 9:00 until we dispersed to our respective tents a shorter time later than perhaps we would all have preferred had the weather been different.

Leslie took Lily at her usual bedtime but the patter of the rain, or perhaps the barking of dogs or happy shrills of playing children (you never think about how loud kids are until you're in a tent with paper thin walls trying to put your 7 year old to sleep) kept her awake.  Or maybe she just had to go to the bathroom.  An hour or so after we put her to 'bed' (Dora sleeping bag) she asked to go to the bathroom...and we rigged our potty seat in the corner of the tent for privacy and Lily, after much sitting, went...and then fell asleep.  

I'm trying to gauge whether this was "the low point".  It's close.  But maybe wait a bit...

That night the rain fell almost constantly.  At one point it was dripping inside Leslie and Lily's tent and I realized the rain flap that covered the mesh "vent" at the top of their tent was on sideways and left an opening.  We fixed that and fixed most of the problem...

Over in my tent, I slept like crap for the most part.  But I slept.  And where there was some water, at least there was no point where rain was just falling directly from the sky and into the tent.  There was some periodic dripping that came tap, tap, tapping on my sleeping bag...but I'd rearrange the flap, or move my sleeping bag to one side or slap the water away or whatever and it would be fine until it would find some other ingress and start again a half hour later.

   
Emma and I both woke several times when the rain fell heaviest, and I think I woke once and for all around six in the morning when the roaming leak found its way directly into my ear hole, with me playing Hamlet's father to mother nature's Claudius.  But unlike King Hamlet I woke, batting away at God's own wet willy before sitting up and realizing that this was 1) as much sleep as I was bound to get and 2)  I realllllly had to pee.

Leslie too was awake, texting me when she heard the rustle of my sleeping back against the air mattress.  I got up and wandered to the bathroom, leaving a sleeping Emma behind before relieving Leslie so she could go.

We assessed the damages in Leslie and Lily's tent...

Where the air mattress raised the sleeping bags off the ground they remained dry, so that should have been most of it, but the backpacks with all the dry clothes?  Those remained on the tent floor where the rain puddled and ponded and saturated everything that should and must remain dry (unless you go without clothing) while they slept.

All of Lily's clothes were soaked.

The adults gathered into an impromptu counsel of war...should we stay?  Should we go?  There was no consensus, but I was leaning toward going.  This might have been our low point had one of the groups not attempted to start their truck only to find the battery completely dead.  Nobody else in the group could drive up the wet grass of the hill to jump the vehicle, and with the battery dead, they couldn't shift it into neutral in order to push it down the hill to us.

This then...this was the low point.  Car dead, soaked clothes, rain still falling, sad children...

And Lily slept on...maybe that's the candle flickering in the night...because Lily just kept on sleeping.  And when she woke and Leslie began feeding her, I was taking clothes and backpacks in dripping bundles down to the front offices laundromat.  Who knew??  Camping/laundromat!  Victory is mine!

And then the rain stopped and the sun came out.  And we pulled the sleeping bags from the tents and drained the water, draping them over our vehicles and letting the sun dry them out.  We got coffee from the office and finished drying out our clothes.  The kids rode their bikes down to the playground, the fire was rekindled, and a fellow camper drove his four wheel drive up the hill and jump started the truck.  And the consensus was...one more night.

It's going to be hard to lay it all out for you because so much got jammed into that day, and I've already put off posting this for so long because there was so much...and there's only so much you all will read before you're like..."Wall of words!  Done!!"  So many things I want to write about that would stretch this post out...the half whimsical purchase of the camp knife and thoughts of whittling away at drift wood by a camp fire, the remembered packs of wild kids, peddling off into adventure and away from the parents' watchful eyes...maybe another post another time.

So let me try to sum up:

S'mores, mountain pies, swimming pool, campfire, charades, wading, fishing, bike riding, basketball, whittling, beer, and a cloudless day with a cool night under starry skies, Lily, in pajamas, sitting on our laps and gobbling roasted marshmallow from the point of a fire-blackened stick, and then again sleeping peacefully until morning.  She really was a good girl throughout the whole thing and LOVED the dog (Chesney) who came along with one of the families.  It feels like I'm doing the actual camping part a huge injustice since most of this is about the rain...but it felt nostalgic, like a trip from MY childhood.  The kids riding together in a big pack...getting on their bikes to peddle down to office to buy something, and then racing them back to play basketball...everyone included...everyone watching out for each other. 

And Emma offered this, "This was probably the best weekend of my whole life."  Almost like she had that father's day backyard camping trip so many years before.

And so we'll try again next year, and hope for a better first night.  As for "real" camping...maybe this is as "real" as it needs to be, with a pond stocked with fish, a laundromat "just in case", clean bathrooms and showers, a playground, basketball courts, and a swimming pool.  We'll take the Montana camping trip when we have this version down to a science.

Entrance to camp

Emma and my quarters

Just prior to rainfall...

Day 2...She's "king of the world"...at the playground

I am mauled by a bear and made its bitch.

Lake Moraine...in which worms died to bring us fish.

Blue gill...Emma caught it but refused to kiss it and turn it into a prince.

The great white whale that I pulled from the depths at great personal risk.

pretty in the foreground, pretty in the background, pretty all around.

She did this without prompting

The camping crew...

Chesney bids farewell to Lily...
Further:

Tuesday, February 26, 2013

Backyard Camping

It's been a while since I've told an Emma story.  This happened after she finished her "CLO" camp performance (musical theater camp) when she was 7. It was summer, and she promised me (/I promised her) backyard camping for Father's Day.  I wrote this then, but never really shared it.  I spent the last couple days sketching pictures to go with it so I could post it...in accordance with prophecy (you'll learn all about the prophecy in next week's Childswork post).

Without further adieu...


Camping:  Chapter 1

She was seven.  She finished her performance to the cheers and standing ovation of the parent-audience. She had been instructed to wear her hair in a "neat" pony tail, which her mother had interpreted as "tight". She'd endured the pulls and pinches and blasts of noxious hair spray in the name of "theater". She'd done well. They all had, and she was justifiably proud. No missed lines, she sang to the crowd, and she hit all her marks. As the lights came up, she scanned the crowd for her parents, found them immediately and beamed. They beamed back, still clapping, as her instructor called for their attention and announced a cast "photo op" for the parents. She lined up with her friends on the steps leading up to the stage and sat, flashing a sunny smile, excitement in her bright blue eyes. Pictures were taken, and then they were ushered back stage to collect their things and meet their parents out front.

She again waited in line; her instructors let her out the back door so she could collect her street clothes, in a baggy marked "Emma". They were not where she put them.

"Emma! Over here, honey!" she heard. She looked up to see her father holding flowers and waving to her, holding a bag in his other hand.

"I have to get my clothes!" she called back.

Her father looked at her, eyebrows raised, and gestured toward the bag with the flowers in his other hand, "What do you think this is?"

"That doesn't look like the bag they were in," she said, walking to him, but he showed her the label on the bag, as well as her clothes inside and with some relief she jumped into his arms to be squeezed tightly and lifted from the floor as her father praised her performance. 

For Emma though, the performance was over, in her mind now was "camping" and "s'mores" and she was impatient to leave the theater and buy marshmallows. 

"Daddy," she said, "can we go to the store now and buy the stuff?"

"FIRST we have to eat dinner, honey, then if the store's still open, we'll buy stuff for s'mores. If not, you're going to have to make do with popcorn," he replied, putting her down and handing her the flowers.

This seemed perfectly acceptable to Emma, who loved popcorn. Though she'd wanted to try the s'mores, if she had to 'settle' for popcorn, well then she'd make do.

Her mother and her grandparents were waiting just behind her father, and he held her hand and walked her out to see them. The next fifteen minutes were an unending stream of repetitious questions and comments: had she liked her teachers, would she do it again next year, did she meet any new friends, you looked beautiful onstage, you did great. . . and on and on. It's not that she wasn't appreciative, or proud; she was, but WHEN was she going to get to go camping?

She was given her choice of restaurants for dinner, and she unhesitatingly selected Monte Cello's. She quickly added, however, that she wasn't all that hungry, and maybe she could just eat a couple pickles? Because, let's face it, how long could it possibly take to eat pickles and then get out of there to go camping?

Her mother and father split up as they left the theater, each having come directly from work, and she decided to go with her father. They walked through the city, tall buildings all around them. They walked down the alley to the street, her father motioning her to hold his hand when they reached the sidewalk. He held tightly to her hand and directed her past an unsavory looking man in a dirty black suit swaying unsteadily, glassy eyes looking out at nothing under the brim of a faded bowler hat. He had a long white beard streaked with gray and he was singing softly to himself, perhaps accompanying the band that she could hear inside. As they walked past him, she turned to watch him before her father snapped, "Em, don't stare, honey, it isn't polite." She quickly looked ahead and again asked her father if they could stop at a store on the way to eat and pick up the s'mores ingredients.
"First we eat, THEN we shop," he answered. She sighed disappointedly but kept up with her father's brisk gait. 

In the elevator at the parking garage, her father let her push the button to the third floor and she remarked, "This is a small one."
"Did you see all the people that just got out of it?" he asked her, "How do you think they all fit in here."

"I guess they must have squished," she replied as the elevator chimed and the doors slid slowly open. Her father held her hand and pulled her back as she made to leave the elevator. The woman who had rode up with them, walked out, and her father nodded to her that it was okay to proceed. She immediately saw his car and they got in. She sighed loudly as she sat in her car seat, the warmth of the car flooding over her.

"You cold, hon'?" he asked her.

"A little, but mostly my legs are just tired."

"I guess they would be; you've had a very long day."

They drove out of the city, racing her mother to Monte Cello's. She thought they'd probably beat her, daddy drove a little faster than mommy did, but her father told her that mommy had a head start. They arrived just as her grandparents got there, which was a good sign, since they'd left long before either of her parents.

Victory! They'd beaten her. And now pappy was getting a table and he hadn't even seen them. "Let's hide from pappy and surprise him!" she said. Her father smiled at her and they sat down out of sight while her grandfather was shown to his table and her grandmother went to the bathroom. They got up and followed silently after.

"OH!" Pappy said as they appeared at the table, "I didn't see you there!" Emma slid into her seat and got the crayons and "kid's menu" as her father shook her grandfather's hand and then slid in next to her. He ordered a Shirley Temple for her as she colored. Her mother arrived. Dinner would most likely never be over. 

They ordered. She got pickles but her mother bargained her into eating cheese sticks too "at the very least" as her grandparents shook their heads, amused at her dinner.

The wait was interminable. They ordered drinks, the drinks came, they ordered food, the food came, the food was eaten, wine had to be finished. At each new milestone she interjected a friendly reminder about finishing up and going shopping and was rebuffed. She was practically shaking with impatience and knew she was on the ragged edge of "trouble" and then her father whispered something to her mother. Her mother replied, "Yes, please take her!" and it was over. The wait was over.

"Are we going shopping now?" she asked her father excitedly.

Her father let out a long breath, his eyes closed. Then one side of his mouth curved into his familiar lopsided grin and his eyes slowly opened and he breathed, "Yes, honey. NOW we are going shopping."

She squealed quietly (in her opinion) and held her father's hand as he led her back out into the parking lot. 

Camping:  Chapter 2

They drove perhaps two miles to the store. It was the little Shop 'N' Save that she didn't like, but as long as they had stuff to make s'mores she didn't care.

"Hop out, kid," he said, "we're here." He held her hand in the parking lot and directed her through the slowly parting doors of the entrance.

Her father guided her first down the baking aisle, looking for marshmallows. He retraced his footsteps several times, but, muttering "huh," under his breath, eventually led her, empty-handed, to the candy aisle. There, he grabbed two of the biggest Hershey's chocolate bars she'd ever seen and handed them to her to carry.

"Daddy, these say 'milk chocolate'," she observed.

"Yeah, that's what you make s'mores with. They're yummier." She nodded happily at this news. 

The graham crackers were in the same aisle, and her father hunkered down to observe the different boxes.

"This one says honey graham," she read, "I don't think we should get those."

"Yeah," he replied, "but it has the s'mores recipe on it and this one, " he gestured with the box at the 'Plain' graham crackers', "doesn't."

"Then we should get the honey grahams," she opined, and her father nodded.

"I couldn't find the marshmallows, so we'll have to ask somebody," he said.

"Here they are, daddy," she pointed.
 
"Huh! You're absolutely right, Emma. Good eye. Grab them, please, and let's go." 

She did this, returning the chocolate bars to her father. They made their way to the check-out line and paid, the chocolate, marshmallows, and crackers transferred into a blue plastic shopping bag.

"Daddy, can I hold the bag?" she asked. His eyebrows raised slightly in surprise, but he smilingly transferred ownership of the bag to her. 

She sat with the bag resting on her lap as they drove home.

When they got home, she hurried inside the house, excitedly telling Jen (her idol/dance instructor/occasional babysitter) that she was camping and making s'mores. Jen, who had been watching her little sister during her performance was satisfactorily impressed and excited for her, and gave her a big hug to welcome her home.

"Where should I put the bag, Daddy?" she asked.

"Put it on the counter for now, Em, and go upstairs and change into your warm jammies. And put on your slippers, please."

She must have been a little quicker than her father expected, because he said, "Em, I thought I told you to. . ." 

He glanced up, saw that she was wearing her pajamas and finished lamely, "put on your jammies. . . which you have clearly already done. Good girl."

Her mother paid Jen, and she listened while Jen relayed Lily's evening, occasionally offering her own insights into Lily's amusing approach to life.

Her father went outside, erected the tent, put down a blanket, and rolled out the sleeping bags. He finished and came back inside in time to say goodbye to Jen.

"Now what?" Emma asked.

"Now we collect some wood for the fire," he replied.

"Can I help?" 

"Sure, but you have to wear your slippers."

She happily agreed and accompanied her father outside. They'd had a big old elm tree removed and all the limbs and branches had been left in the wooded hillside behind their house. He selected three long narrow switches, pulling a knife from his pocket, and cutting a point at the narrow end.

"What's that for?" she asked.

"THAT, dear girl, is what you're going to use to roast your marshmallows."

When he'd finished, he put the switches down and began selecting twigs and branches to start the fire, putting them with the marshmallow-roastin' sticks. "Can I carry those to the fire pit?" she asked.

"Yeah, Em, that's a great idea," he said, and she began gathering what she could carry as her father began picking larger and larger pieces of wood.

As she placed the branches in a pile near the fire pit, her father was walking down the hill to join her.
"Some of this wood is a little wet," he said, "it may not burn that easily."

"How can wet wood burn?" she asked him.

"Well, if you make the fire hot enough, the water will evaporate and the wood will catch, but you need some of the wood to be dry."

She gave a start as he snapped a branch across his knee with a loud crack. "You scared me," she said.
"Sorry, kiddo, I have to break the bigger ones so they're short enough to fit in the fire pit." He began piling the twigs like a teepee in the middle of the fire pit, stripping bark from limbs and shredding it underneath and around the twigs, then adding larger branches the taller the teepee got. When he'd finished he stood upright, put his hands at the back of his waist, grimaced briefly, stretched his back and said, "Now we light the fire."

He took a piece of paper, rolled it into a tube, and lit the end with a match. Then he held the tube like a torch under the teepee, moving it around to catch more twigs. When the tube started to burn down, he rolled another, lit it with the first tube, and tossed the burning paper of the first into the pit. Halfway through the second piece of paper, the twigs were ablaze, the sticks were lighting, and one or two of the bigger branches had caught. 

"Aright, cutie-pie," he said, "we're almost ready." He rearranged a few of the branches, blew into the fire a few times, added a few larger branches, paused, squinted, blew into the fire a few more times then stood and announced, "We have a fire."

Camping:  Chapter 3 
The wood smoked at first but it wasn't the kind of smoke that stung her eyes. Her father told her it was because the wood was a little wet. She asked if they could make the s'mores now, and he told her yes and sent her inside to get her mother.

When she came back outside her father had arrayed chairs around the firepit and had a marshmallow stick next to each chair. She was still waiting for her mother to come out, so she sat in one of the chairs next to her father and pulled her knees up to her chin, staring into the fire.
"I like watching the fire," she said dreamily.

Her father smiled and said, "I do too, honey. I think most people do."

Her mother came outside and took the empty seat, crossing her legs, as Emma explained, "These are our marshmallow sticks."

Her father went inside briefly and came out with the chocolate, broken into squares, and the graham crackers stacked on a plate. He held the marshmallow bag in his other hand. As he walked outside, he hooked the door with his foot to swing it closed behind him, then transferred the bag under his chin so he could reach down and pull the door completely closed with his hand. He set the plate on the ground and opened the bag. The marshmallows were sticky and a little moist, but he pulled them apart and skewered one at the end of her stick, handing it to her before repeating the process for her mother's stick, then his own.

"Here," he said, "is how I roast marshmallows." He sat in his chair next to hers and held the tip of his marshmallow capped stick a few inches from the flames, rotating his stick slowly as he did so like a rotisserie. "Do NOT worry if your marshmallow catches fire," he continued, "and do NOT cry. You just pull it out like this…”  He pulled his marshmallow to his face, "Blow it out. . . "  He blew on the unignited marshmallow, "Wait for it to cool, then eat it. It just makes the outside a little crispier than you might like, but it is NOT the end of the world."

She nodded her head in understanding and advanced her marshmallow. "Like this?" she asked.

"Exactly like that," he agreed.

Her father was done first and offered to donate his marshmallow to her first s'more. She refused politely, wanting her first s'more to be made with her own marshmallow. He blew on the marshmallow a bit, then gingerly plucked the entire marshmallow from the stick with his teeth (if in fact one CAN gingerly eat a marshmallow in one bite), plopping the whole thing in his mouth, then sliding the stick back out past slightly parted teeth. 

"That was a good one," he said.

He placed his hands atop hers and gently lowered the stick until it was a bit closer to the fire, then re-loaded his own stick and continued. 

Her mother finished next and handed her stick to her father to make the s'more. 

"Let's have a look at that marshmallow, Em," she said, and Emma showed it to her. "Just a little more time," she said and Emma put it back near the fire, this time a little closer.

"I think you're done, princess," her father said, peering into the fire a minute later. "Let me see." She handed him her stick and he pronounced the roasting complete. He took a graham cracker, placed a square of chocolate atop it, and then lay the stick with the marshmallow on top of that. Then he took another graham cracker, placed it on top of the marshmallow and, using his left hand to squeeze the sandwich together, pulled the stick out with his right. The resulting s'more he placed into her outstretched hands.

She took a bite, marshmallow oozing out the sides and onto the corners of her mouth. She held the s'more daintily, and when she had finished chewing asked for a napkin.

"Napkin?" her father scoffed, "We're camping! There aren't any napkins!" But he went inside the house and returned with a napkin for each of them.

She liked the s'mores, but she had never had a big appetite. Two bites later she announced that she'd finished what she wanted of her s'more. Her father had just finished his own, and, looking up to see the shaking head of her mother, and the raised hand warding it off, accepted it for himself with a somewhat sick look on his face. If he was too full to eat though, he valiantly finished it nonetheless.

Her father built the fire up a little more then, adding some scrap pieces of pine that he and her grandfather had used to fix things in the house. The pine caught quickly and blazed yellow white, sputtering and popping. And Emma held her hand over her forehead where it was getting too hot, and asked her father to push her chair back from the firepit, which he did by picking up the chair, with her in it, and sliding it back a foot from the fire.

"Why does it spit like that?" she asked.

"Those pieces I just put in are pine," he said, "and pine has lots of sap in it. The sap pops when it's in the wood and catches on fire." Another loud pop from the fire scattered embers and her father stood up and put the screen over the fire pit. "Okay... no more pine," he said.

The fire slowly began to dwindle. It was past twilight under a cloudless sky. They watched the fireflies descend from the hillside, winking on then off, then on again somewhere else, trailing green light. The stars were swimming slowly into view and the night air was cooling. 

Her mother excused herself and went to bed, exchanging hugs and kisses. This was Emma's night with her Daddy, a belated Father's Day present as much for him as for her, and she gave her mother a kiss goodnight and asked her father if she could get in the tent.

"Sure," her father replied.

"Can I take the lantern?"

"Absolutely," he said, switching it on and handing it over to her.

She carried it off across the lawn, the light bobbing into the darkness of the tent. She unzipped the outer flap, then the bug screen and went inside zippering it up behind her.

The fire burned itself out. Her father joined her in the tent, sending her back inside the house to brush her teeth and go to the bathroom. He walked inside with her to get water for them both. When she was finished he told her to get one book for her to read, and one for them both to read. She scampered upstairs to her room while he got his own book.

Together they went to the tent, zipping it behind them. They sprawled out on the sleeping bags and Emma said, "Let's read in our special way." And they turned over on their stomachs, propping themselves up by the elbows, with their books resting on their pillows.

"This is the best night ever," she said, "I will never forget this as long as I live!"

"I'm glad you're having fun, Em," he replied. 

They read together in silence. "I've read three pages already," she confided.
"Good job, Em," he said, turning his own page.

"How many have you read?"

He raised his brow at her and said, "One."

"Do you want to play the Eye Spy book?"

"Sure, honey. We'll do two pages then go to bed."

"Okay, daddy."

She picked a page and he picked a page. They saved hers for last. When they'd finished spotting all the hidden objects she said her prayers and they turned off the lantern. She told him again that she'd never forget this night, and he squeezed her tightly and told her he never would either and that he loved her, and they fell asleep at last, ending her long day.